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Merike  • 

Something about life 41 about giving and gifts

Do you like giving gifts? But what about receiving gifts?
It’s not just about giving, but also how, when, and what you give.
The most special gifts are those that come straight from the heart.
By giving and supporting others, you also support yourself, because what you give out comes back to you—the law of cause and effect.
How you receive is no less important than the giving. How do you accept a gift?
Do you accept the gift with gratitude in a way that makes both the giver and the recipient happy? Or do you react—oh, that wouldn’t have been necessary—by diminishing the giver’s desires and aspirations, making them feel uncomfortable?
How you use the energy the universe has given you through your thoughts, feelings, actions, and interactions with other people is your gift to life.
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Merike  • 

Something about life 40 self-esteem

 When a person feels undervalued, they don't always walk away.
Often they stay, but they start to change.
 At first it's subtle. Quiet. Almost invisible to those who aren't really looking.
They stop repeating themselves - not because they've run out of things to say, but because they've realized their voice is no longer being heard.
 Their words sink into silence, unanswered and unnoticed - not because they don't matter, but because they've been made to feel like they're not needed.
 The words stop asking - not because they don't care anymore, but because constantly asking for the bare minimum is emotionally draining.
 Why ask for respect, recognition, or kindness - things that should already be there in any healthy relationship?
 Why fight for recognition when invisibility has become their daily reality?
 Their smile begins to fade - not all at once, but slowly, like the sun retreating behind thick clouds behind.
 Their laughter fades—not because there is nothing to laugh about, but because joy is harder to find.
 he light in their eyes fades—not suddenly, but..." gradually, like a flame struggling to survive in a room that is no longer warm.

This change is not loud. It does not come with a storm.

 It is a quiet retreat—a gentle unraveling of parts of themselves that felt unseen, unheard, and undervalued.
 What remains is someone who is more restrained, more alert—not weaker, but changed.
Still strong, still capable—but different. A version of themselves shaped by silence and sustained by resilience.
 
 Because here is the truth:
A person does not have to leave to disappear.
Sometimes the absence begins from within long before anyone else notices.
And by the time they do notice...

it may be too late to do anything about it.
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Merike  • 

About wolfs

 The wolf never eats corpses, neither of animals nor of people; it spends its entire life with one partner, it does not mate with its mother or sister; it is a monogamous animal, it does not cheat. If a partner dies, the wolf remains alone; it knows its young well: it is the only animal that helps its parents after a deep old age and brings them food.

 When you kill a wolf, it looks you in the eyes until its soul leaves it; it is 25% smarter than the dog and it is the only animal that does not obey training, they say. Wolves think, dream, make plans, communicate with each other intelligently and are more like us than any other living being

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Something about life 38

 You notice that your life has become fast-paced and you lose clarity: your emotions are at their peak and your mind is racing (sometimes aimlessly).
 You are internally restless and often do not see things and situations as they really are. You start to doubt (I didn’t do enough…), you are afraid of failure (Did I do something wrong…), and you try to avoid such uncertain situations.
 Stability and a sense of security do not depend only on external circumstances, it starts from within you.
 If you take the time to create a space for silence and presence within yourself, you may soon feel that something is starting to change.
 Everything seems to be quieter not only on the outside, but above all inside you.
Perhaps you feel peace and clarity about what you really feel, what you want, what you value.  You begin to see what is truly important to you and understand why you are experiencing certain things or situations right now and in this way.
 You're not really creating anything, because these feelings and insights have been there all along. You're just letting them arise now and understanding them.
 True understanding and healing begins the moment you allow yourself to listen and feel what is really going on inside you. Sometimes you don’t need more power, you just need more allowing and trusting.
Allow yourself to feel. Allow yourself to create.
Allow yourself to be alive – exactly as you see suiteble and right for yourself.
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Merike  • 

Blue Eyes Unchanged - Michelle Gurevich

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=DLq5kQygo0w&list=RDIEt7bnuO5y0&index=16

Across from me, on the bus this afternoon
A girl of age ninety, eyes of blue
Peering out from a changed too soon
I saw the girl so charming in her youth

Her hat reveals a women of taste
Now just to get off this bus is a torturous fate
She'll slowly make the way back to her place
An apartament where no one awaits

Blue eyes unchange
The body aged
Blue eyes you are my last witnesses now
Blue eyes unchange
The body aged
Blue eyes tell me what you wanted to be
When you grew up

Blue eyes once reflected in her mother's gaze
On those summers as a child by the lake
Blue eyes saw love's first embrace
The body down the road
I wonder if he's alive today

Young girls go laughing past on the road
No one pays attention to the old
But at least we know justice will be served
In the end everyone gets their turn

Blue eyes unchange
The body aged
Blue eyes you are my last witnesses now
Blue eyes unchange
The body aged
Blue eyes tell me what you wanted to be
When you grew up
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Merike  • 

Something about life 37 Kimberly Smith

 When a woman replaces you with peace—not another man—you can be sure it’s truly over. That’s the part so many miss. They see her silence and think she’s just confused, that her distance is only temporary, that she’s simply being emotional and will come back when the storm passes. But what they don’t realize is this: when a woman starts craving peace more than your presence, you’ve already lost her.
 She’s not searching for someone else to save her. She’s not rebounding—she’s recovering. She’s not hoping to make you jealous—she’s quietly, powerfully, making herself whole again. The most unstoppable version of a woman is the one who no longer needs to be heard, fixed, or fought for—because she’s finally found safety in her own space.
 It’s not that she didn’t love you. In fact, she loved you so deeply that she forgot to love herself. She showed up, stood by you, and gave you grace you didn’t even realize you needed. But eventually, she grew tired—tired of begging for the bare minimum, tired of questioning her worth, tired of feeling like loving you meant losing pieces of herself.
 So now, she’s exchanged chaos for clarity. Arguments for quiet mornings. Anxiety for deep, steady breaths. That constant feeling of walking on eggshells has been replaced with a sanctuary she’s built for her own peace. There are no loud exits, no dramatic goodbyes—just a gentle, resolute absence. Because when a woman truly heals, she doesn’t chase closure—she becomes it.
 Another man could have been forgiven. She could have competed, cried, or pleaded. But when peace walks in and takes your place, understand that her soul has already moved on—and where she’s going, you’re simply not invited.
To every woman who has chosen herself, who has chosen peace over pain, and healing over chaos—your strength is a quiet revolution. Your journey is proof that sometimes the bravest thing you can do is walk away and build a life that feels like home inside your own heart.
Kimberly Smith
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Merike  • 

About choices 3 Shadows of the past

 A situation or event may not be bad, because it depends on the meaning you give to the situation. If you focus on the bad and the failure, you are already programming yourself for failure.
 And then it happens.
 Often your greatest fears come true.
 “Time heals our wounds”, but if you go back to the past again and again, you are pulling yourself back. Control your past fears and do not become a victim of past events.
 If you focus too much on the past, it will be difficult for you to move forward. Make it clear to yourself what is best for you in this situation and do not let the situation control you, but be the master of the situation yourself.
You have one life, one body, take care of them and do not let anger and irritation destroy them.


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Merike  • 

About grief 2.

  Grief is not just an emotion—it’s an unraveling, a space where something once lived but is now gone. It carves through you, leaving a hollow ache where love once resided.
 In the beginning, it feels unbearable, like a wound that will never close. But over time, the raw edges begin to mend. The pain softens, but the imprint remains—a quiet reminder of what once was. The truth is, you never truly "move on." You move with it. The love you had does not disappear; it transforms. It lingers in the echoes of laughter, in the warmth of old memories, in the silent moments where you still reach for what is no longer there. And that’s okay.
 Grief is not a burden to be hidden. It is not a weakness to be ashamed of. It is the deepest proof that love existed, that something beautiful once touched your life. So let yourself feel it. Let yourself mourn. Let yourself remember.
 There is no timeline, no “right” way to grieve. Some days will be heavy, and some will feel lighter. Some moments will bring unexpected waves of sadness, while others will fill you with gratitude for the love you were lucky enough to experience.
 Honor your grief, for it is sacred. It is a testament to the depth of your heart. And in time, through the pain, you will find healing—not because you have forgotten, but because you have learned how to carry both love and loss together.
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Sodade .wmv - CESARIA EVORA

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ERYY8GJ-i0I

Who will show you...
This distant way?
Who will show you...
This distant way?
This way ... to Sao Tomé?

The longing, the longing,...
The longing
For this land of mine, Sao Nicolau

If you write me letter,...
I will write you back
If you forget me,...
I will forget you...

Until the day...
You come back


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About belonging

 There is a balance in nature.
 Your power is within you, in the land you were born on, and the land you walk on.
You may have noticed that the trees, plants, and fruits that grow and ripen on this land gives you the most power, and this power and support you take and keep in the best possible way for youself.




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About grief

 Grief is love. It is there, but you can't place it, it has nowhere to go.
 All that unplaced love gathers in the corners of your eyes, in a lump in your throat and chest - in your heart, in your soul. Grief is love that becomes so painful that we no longer recognize it as love, and that's why we call it "grief." It's the ability to simultaneously endure both heartache and gratitude for the person who was in our lives. And below the feeling of separation, sadness, and loneliness is love.

 Luive Merilai



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About belonging

 "The main human need is "belonging". All people behave primarily based on this need, and their biggest fear is to lose belonging to the family"
"Hidden laws of the family" Tiiu Bolzmann
 You gather people around you who share both spiritual and personal interests and goals, because you need advisors and supporters who can help you move towards your dreams and goals.
 These people can be your family, work colleagues, schoolmates, training partners, or an established group of friends. This creates different support groups, where you can get help and support and you can also share your support and knowledge with others. At the same time, these support groups also act as a mirror to your actions, because sometimes it can be difficult to see yourself objectively, as an outsider.
Keep safe and love your loved ones.



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Shame 2

 You have a secret and you are afraid of it coming out because then others might judge you based on it?
 Have you associated a secret with shame?
 Shame is a sign that you need to find yourself and believe in yourself more.

 You cannot feel like a free person if you live in fear, sharing only the brighter side of your life and hiding the darker sides of it.

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About beliefs 5

I believe that after the rain, the sun always shines.
I believe that life is wonderful when I look and listen with my heart.
I believe that we are all on a journey and move along our own path, and how someone walks it is chosen by each person, whether consciously or unconsciously.
I believe that all people are good and special.
I believe that the most important thing is unconditional love. Love begins and lives within me, if I love myself, then others will love me too. I believe that forgiveness is an important skill and value. Forgiving yourself and others opens your heart and lets love live.
I believe that most of the obstacles that are stumbling blocks to my progress are only those in my own head.
I believe that every word and thought creates my life.
I believe that I learn something new every day.
I believe that gratitude liberates and sets things in movement.
I believe that I have enough human care and understanding to understand other people around me.
I believe that if I can lose, I am also able to win.
I believe that we all have the power to turn our lives into a wonderful gift to ourselves.



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Something about life 36 Fred Jüssi

Time is something that no one can give back.
You can give back money and a comb and everything else to a person, but you can't give back time.

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Something about life 35

 Years change you and you start to see things in a completely different light.
 And at some point you don't want to argue or get upset anymore. You don't talk as much as you used to and you avoid conversations that don't lead you anywhere, don't give you anything, and you often prefer to keep your opinions to yourself.
 Over the years, you learn to differentiate between people who are truly important to you and people who don't really care about you. You prefer to stay with those who care about you and distance yourself from others, because why should you interact with people who bring more problems than joy into your life? You just move on with your life.
 Years also help you understand how to create order and clarity in your life.
 Maybe there aren't as many people around you anymore, but the ones that are still there are the best and as the years go by, you learn to appreciate them more and more.
 Years also teach you that even if you sometimes fall, you always have the strength to get back up again, because sometimes you win and sometimes you lose.



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Something about life 34


 There is a lot of different noise around us - cars, radios, televisions, telephones.
 Sometimes it can seem that even people talk a lot.
 Sometimes people talk, but they are not heard.
 And sometimes silence says much more than a thousand words.
 There was a song about silence: silence is golden.
 Many people are afraid of silence.
 It may happen that when you talk, you may not feel. Maybe you don't want to feel.
 What is it that you are running away from?
  What feelings do you not dare to feel?




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Something about life 33

 Sometimes we adults are too serious. It seems like we don't have time and we don't know, we have forgotten how to be playful, to be free and feel free, to feel joy and why not - to be a little naughty.
Keep that little child inside you alive, happy and playful.
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Merike  • 

Something about life 32

 Accept yourself just as you are. Don't try to be someone else.
 The question is not why you are feeling bad or whether you have depression, but rather why and how it has arisen, but how to change it, transform it.
 There is no conditional saying - should, could - there is I am, I do.
 Take responsibility for your words.
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Something about life 31

People want to change their surroundings and living situation, forgetting that change often begins with himself- changing yourself and yours attitude.
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Merike  • 

Something about life 29

You can overcome all resistances and difficulties if you have set yourself a goal to strive for.
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Merike  • 

Something about life 28

 You can only find your real truth and knowledge about your nature when you dig and look into the deepest and most hidden depths of your soul.
 Even gold and gems can only be found after hard searching and digging.
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Merike  • 

About the role of victim 3

 It may be that the victim does not want to be rescued and find a solution to his problem, because as long as he is a victim, he will get attention.



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Something about life 27

 It is said that the universe first whispers in your ear, then taps you on the shoulder, and finally, if you still don't understand, hits you on the head.
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About promises

 On the New Year's Eve is usually time when people make promises for the coming year, and even though the New Year seems mountains and seas away, we're talking about promises that are often broken.
 You promise that in the New Year you will start exercising weekly, eat healthy, be friendlier - kinder, visit or call your parents more often.
In fact, all of these activities should be self-evident, rather than being given special attention at the end of the year.
 Going to the gym - it doesn't just mean going to the gym once and then you train yourself to strips. Start with light walking. An evening or over evening walking in nature combines exercise and fresh air.
 For healthy eating - you don't need that much. Give up fast food. More vegetables and fruits and homemade meat - chicken - fish. When you cook yourself, you always know what the food contains.
 To be friendly and kind - it should be in the nature of every person. Treat other people the way you want to be treated. Do you like being yelled at, insulted, humiliated, belittled? So why do you act like that with other people?
 Our parents are our backround, our fortress. Let's take care and protect our fortresses.

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Merike  • 

Something about life 26, values

 Everyone has their own challenges and opportunities in life, but some just don't believe in them - don't believe in themselves.
 If you set aside all your material possessions, then who you are,
who you have become.
 Don't let things control You. 
 Who have you reached out to or supported?
 What do you value in your life?
What are YOUR values?



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Something about life 24

Even if it is not in your power to change big things in this world, you always have the ability to change small things.
Your smiling face can be someone else's lifeline.

Tene Laul



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Lauri Räpp 3

that important things
would be as simple as possible
must be understood
the importance of simple things
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Your story 3

 Is the life you are living exactly the way you want to live? as you tell in your story?
 If you don't like your story, you always have the opportunity to change it and adapt it to the life you like, You are the author of your story.
 The past has already happened, but you write your own plan for the future.
 Maybe when you think about the past, memories of some event come to mind again and again and you seem to cling to them. They can be random events, but they can also be life-changing moments. Have you and what have you learned from them?
 Why do you keep remembering them?
 Do these memories affect your current life, current relationships?




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Samsara - Haya Band & Daiqing Tana

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=C1ilOyzuWbs

From their 4th album "Crazy Horse" (2014)

The moon rises in the silent sky
The ocean breathes between its rise and fall
The praying songs come from beyond the mountains
The songs gather the scattering pieces of memory
The wind is singing and the birds fly with no trace of wings left in the air
The road is endless, and the distant mountains are
growing when no one sees
You are walking in the water where lilies bloom
This moment, tears keep on flowing from your eyes..


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Merike  • 

About letting go 3

Look inside yourself and look at the people around you. How many people are around you who feels loneliness, pain, longing for someone.
Each of us carrys on his own secrets from the recent or distant past .
But it's all was there allready. Take with you the necessary knowledge, passed lessons, insights, insights and let the rest to go.
Don't carry past problems with you.
And even if you feel that today is not the best day, take with you everything that is and was good today and create the kind of tomorrow you want.
And wish very precisely, because wishes tend to come true.


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Merike  • 

Something about life 23

There have always been wars in the world. Some are smaller and some bigger.
Have you ever wondered how the current war differs?
Is this war too close for comfort in the sense that it reminds us of the 1940s?
Are we afraid that history will repeat itself because the pattern is too similar?
Can everything you fear come true?

The more energy you give to that fear, the more powerful your fear becomes.

Turn a completely new page now and let me ask you:

WHAT DO YOU DREAM ABOUT?

WHAT DO YOU WISH FOR?
 
 I have tried to remain impartial in my writings and not to express my opinion and beliefs, but I have a very specific answer and wish for these questions:

 I WISH FOR WORLD PEACE
 I WISH FOR FINDING SOLUTIONS AND PEACE TO ALL EPICENTERS OF WAR
 I WISH PEOPLE COULD LIVE IN PEACE AND UNDERSTANDING WITH EACH OTHER AND WITH ACCEPTANCE WITH EACH OTHERS BEING
 I WISH HEALTH AND HEALING FOR ALL WHO DO NOT HAVE IT
 I WISH LOVE TO EVERYONE’S HEART AND SOUL  


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Merike  • 

About dreams

Do you sometimes feel like your wishes and dreams are behind a thousand lands and seas?
It seems difficult or even impossible to reach them, and so you do not start any action to fulfill your dreams. But no one but yourself can stop you from fulfilling your wishes and dreams.
Trust yourself and give your dreams a chance.




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Something about life 21

If you want to be happy, don't try to please others. Just be who You are.
Learn to love another person just as like he is.
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Merike  • 

Lauri Räpp 2

You are looking for
your place
in this world
without noticing that this world
has a place
in You


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Lauri Räpp

I was learned
to see the life
with eyes and heart

but there are things in life
that better
don't look with mind
yes, to close your eyes
it is easy

but how
to close your heart?
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Merike  • 

Adagio

Lara Fabian https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=6EZj-KVdcu8
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About the power of thoughts 4

Unresolved situations from the past can block Your life-path and prevent You from moving forward. Such blockages can affect how You think and how You feel. By noticing and releasing these situations, You can release Your energy. Your body and mind works together, and so Your good wishes and intentions are very powerful healers.
Every action You take, has a reaction and Your thoughts are also actions that carries a lot of energy.
Your thoughts are like an echo - everything You do comes back to You.
Your thoughts and feelings change the world inside You and around You




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Merike  • 

Something about life 20

Always remember, you came here with a purpose.
You have skills and knowledge that needed to be taught and shared.
You are important.
Your lovedones and friends needs You.
The whole world needs You.
By being and doing, you have brightened the lives and worldviews of so many people.
Receive and pass on the joy and love, kindness and understanding.
Let go of anger and bitterness,because they crush you and prevent you from moving towards your goals.
YOU  ARE  THE  WAY  YOU  ARE  GOING  ON
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About remorse

Regret and remorse are completely different feelings.

If you feel remorse, it is directly related to an act that is generally condemnable and you wish to apologize for your action. You may also feel remorse about not doing something if you could have improved or prevented it.

You may feel remorse because you have set too many limits for yourself and overstepped them or failed to do something.

Most often you feel remorse for lying, while you do not dare to tell the truth. Honesty always reduces guilt.

You may feel remorse because you haven't been communicating with your parents, loved ones or friends for a long time - you haven't been interested in what they have done, you seem to have forgotten them or excluded them.

You may also feel remorse about other people's shameful actions.

It seems to you that if you have apologized and have been forgiven, you have seemed to ease the punishment for your action.

Do you feel guilty and why?

Does your remorse affect your relationships with the people around you?
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Something about life 19

I choose to believe and take responsibility for what I say.
Making choices includes taking responsibility.
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Something about life 18

You can't lose something you don't have.
You cannot lose yourself once you have found yourself.
No one can take away your freedom of choice.
Accept yourself just the way you are.
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Something about life 17

Your life must have meaning.
You must have meaning in your relationship and not just because of the relationship.
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About decisions 2

When making a decision, you are influenced by emotions and logical thinking. Often your head and heart want different things. If you think logically, you know exactly what decision you need to make, but emotionally you want to decide the opposite.

And usually emotions win.


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About apologizing

Sometimes a word or thought you say may be humiliating or offensive for another person , even if for you it was just a word or thought.
Forgiveness is a form of taking responsibility - taking responsibility for own`s words.
Sometimes it can be difficult to ask forgiveness, because it involves evaluating your words and actions and admitting your mistake.
An apology shows your strength to admit your mistake.
If you dare to do so, dare to confess.

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Something about the life 11

LIVE YOUR LIFE CONSCIOUSLY, BECAUSE ONLY YOU YOURSELF IS RESPONSIBLE FOR YOUR LIFE , NOT SOMEBODY ELSE OR A GOD IN THE HEAVEN. IT IS IMPORTANT TO BE ABLE TO OBSERVE YOURSELF FROM THE SIDE. TAKE RESPONSIBILITY FOR YOUR ACTS, THOUGHTS AND WORDS, AND FORGIVE YOUR OWN MISTAKES.
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Meaning of life 10

Again and again it is necessary to remind and ask from yourself a question : WHO ARE THE PEOPLE WHO ARE IMPORTANT FOR ME, HOW MUCH I TURN ATTENTION  TO THEM AND HOW MUCH TIME I SPEND WITH THEM
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About beliefs 4

 Many negative beliefs can start allready from your early childhood. Some negative beliefs can be based on a byword dropped by someone.
 You will surely remember the proverb "The weeping comes after a longtime fun". What kind of message does this sends to you? That perhaps every joy is followed by sorrow or resentment? Should I have a good time and be happy when something unpleasant follows?          Maybe I'm not lucky? In this way, you can spin negative thoughts in your head indefinitely.
Your word has the ability to change belief. By calling an accident in your life, you get it. Use powerful, strong, and positive words to change your negative beliefs.
If you change the word, also will change the feeling.
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About the time

Don't waste your time worrying about trivial matters, because there are things that can be changed and there are things that you cannot change. Time is one of the things that you do not control.
Make the most of your time, because you can't stop, change or save time for later.
Identify and solve problems that you can solve.
Don't underestimate your abilities.
There is so much unused talent and power inside you. Just try to find them.
If you use your talents and abilities correctly, you will certainly achieve the desired results.
Try to act honestly with yourself and with others, because what you leave behind will be once found ahead.
Try to act right away, because often you are not given another chance.
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Merike  • 

About word

“Watch your thoughts, for your thought become words.
Watch your words, for your words become actions.
Watch your actions, for your actions become habits.
Watch your habits, for your habits become character,
watch your character, for it becomes the DESTINY.”
So, watch your thoughts.
Frank Outlaw

Word is energy and energy does not disappear, it only changes. Words have power when you think, believe, and feel what you say. When you speak only for talking, it creates confusion and shrinks the power of words. Thought and faith give power to words.
Words have power, and power gives meaning to words and sensation behind the word.
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About stress 4

Stress first reveals itself as anxiety. This in turn causes multiple bodily symptoms as stress may cause the organism to go to a state of ultimate readiness. We are ready to act – fight or flee.

Your pulse heightens, muscles become tense, general agitation grows, feet-legs become sweaty. In a state of constant stress, your digestive system also suffers, because you are in a constant situation of fighting and the digestive system is not as important. All of your brain power is spent on supporting fighting behaviour. Being in a state of high stress means that you are not able to reason as you’d normally reason and thus, one makes better and more sensible decisions when feeling in peace. Anxiety is a normal and necessary reaction in certain situations, this is necessary to ensure an efficient way of regaining control.

It is important to face the stress-inducing situation and to solve it, otherwise you will avoid similar situations in the future and will feel on edge due to it.

It is also important to manage your emotions and feelings, to keep a positive state of mind. In case you feel scared and angry, everything around you will feel the same.

It is not possible to change the surrounding world, but it is possible to change your own behaviour.
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Merike  • 

About beliefs 3

That what you focus on, creates slowly but surely your reality with your every thought, word and act.

You write down your idea and if you read it – only just was the idea in your head and now it is on a piece of paper. Your idea has become visible. Already you begin to act and behave so that the idea would become reality. 

Thus, you create your own reality. You only need to have a clear understanding of what to achieve. Unwavering will and determination are a must for realising your idea and belief in yourself.


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About forgiveness

Someone insulted and hurt you. Ask yourself - why did this situation hurt You, why did you got offended. Maybe the reason lies in you, but not in the person who did it to you?

The offender seems bad and unfair to you.

But every person sees the situation from his/her own point of view and at the moment you feel insulted from your point of view. You don't see the situation as the other person sees it. He/she has a completely different understanding of the situation and he/she does not care of the situation, because he/she does not understand what he/she has caused you by his/her attitude and behaviour. He/she doesn't see things the same way you do.

Why do you make yourself suffer because of another person's bad behaviour.

You get exactly what you create for yourself and you should create the best for yourself.



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About Occurrences

Occurrences consist of different experiences, situations, thoughts, and emotions. Occurrences can be positive or negative. Occurrences can be realistic or a product of your imagination. Occurrences can act as both a stressor as well as a trigger (a switch, a pusher ) the latter of which refers to the creation of a reaction or process, making it the most suitable expression to use.

 Stress is not caused by things and situations themselves, but rather, your interpretation and reaction to them.


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About stress

Stress has been interpreted in various ways.

It is thought that stress is caused by unexpected life events as well as the reactions following such events, including emotional tensions and feelings. Stress can be caused by situations that make You feel as if You are unable to cope which, in turn, disturbs the inner balance of Your being. You are unable to adapt to the new set of circumstances and can’t find ways to address and solve the situation.

Anything that causes You to experience stress can be called a stressor. The experience of stress itself, however, is the combination of the emotions and reactions brought about by a stressor. You could view stress as an unintended response to both internal and external forces that have either put Your body’s resilience to the test or pushed it to the limit of what You are able to tolerate. Your expectations and understanding of the situation, together with the importance You attach to it, have a considerable impact on the emotions that accompany stress. A situation which may appear as a stressor to You may be seen as a challenge by another. Coping with stress requires the ability to reassess the situation, control Your emotions, perhaps alter some values and beliefs, find a new balance and set new goals.

 What You consider to be stressful could cause another person to feel excited.

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About the power of thoughts

Your thoughts possess great power.

Thinking about a problem and hoping to find a planned solution may sometimes become the problem itself. Being stuck in your thoughts means that you will continue to return to them again and again. 
You start to fear failure.


What types of problems cause you to feel trapped?




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