About the role of victim

In an unsafe environment, the feeling of security is weakened, therefore, the person is constantly in a defensive position, both regarding his own feelings and against other people, ready to flee immediately or surrender. This is how one can become a victim of one’s own feelings and of other people. In a safe environment, we can develop the ability to use feelings as regulators of our lives, but in an unsafe environment, this feeling cannot develop.
The calm and relaxed state within a group of people decreases rapidly in an unsafe environment. Situations can no longer be adequately assessed and, as a result, assessments of situations may be erroneous, which may lead to overreaction or underreaction.
If you are in an unsafe environment for a long time, you may start to feel that you are not good enough, you need to please other people. You may develop a feeling that you cannot change anything in your life because you are not the master of your own life – the leader is your fate or someone else. There is a fear of being unlucky, worried about what other people think, you experience a constant shame.
One of the reasons for your failures may be the limitations that you set for yourself – negative thinking, questioning your abilities.